“I don’t give a fuck” i say while actually giving one.
Happens with most of us, right? We worry too much about what someone would think and even if we don’t want to care about it, we do.
This book is for such people. People looking for success and happiness but are stuck in a loop of giving fucks about things that wont help a bit in their success.
The Subtle Art of not Giving a Fuck, A Counter-intuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, by Mark Manson is a non-fiction book that talks about the most important question we face everyday- ‘how do i stop giving a fuck?’
Mark does not tell you what sounds nice to your ears or what looks good in a book. He absolutely does not tell you what you want to hear. Instead he tells you what you NEED to hear. Even if you have known it all along, Mark does the job that any best friend would do, slapping you with the harsh truth, breaking your ego in the process and not even feeling sorry for it.
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.”
― Mark Manson
I am not really a fan of non fiction. Honestly, i picked up this book because of the catchy title and the introductory chapter talking about Bukowski. It intrigued me a lot and i instantly bought it without any second thoughts.
In the initial chapters he has put light on the most important issue – social media and its impact on people. How everyone is running a race to prove that ‘my-life-is-better-than-yours‘ and in the process are getting unhappy with every passing day. He says there are only limited amounts of fucks you can give, and its very important to spend those fucks wisely. To spend those fucks on things that actually matter.
There is excessive use of the word ‘fuck’, enough that by the end of the first chapter, it’s on your tongue and in the next few chapters even if you don’t find this word written, you will add it in your mind while reading. No kidding.
In the later chapters he covers the topic of Emotions– how we should not base our decisions on them;
Pain and Suffering – how it is useful in living a good life and how suffering often leads us to our dreams;
Positive Attitude– accepting negative in itself is positive;
Healthy love and thin line between Fault and Responsibility;
Saying NO and the Choices we make etc.
All the chapters are backed by either stories or his personal experiences and each explains how values and metrics are a crucial part of ones life.
“Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy. As”
― Mark Manson
He talks in the language of practicality and logic and maintains a No-Nonsense attitude throughout the book. He encourages readers to not wish for a life with no problems. Instead he explains how a life without problem is just not practical. He suggests wishing for a life with good problems, problems that are worth suffering for.
He does not coat his words in honey before feeding you. He gives you the raw truth with a pinch of humor.
“Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.”
― Mark Manson
What i didn’t like about the book was that at points i felt he was deviating from the ongoing topic which became confusing and i had to reread it often. Also i found his personal stories a little too much because he was trying to include them even where they were unnecessary.
Other than that its an amusing read. At some places i had to keep the book down to ponder over what he said.
I personally feel this book is for teenagers and people in their early 20’s. The reason being that the topics covered are more along the line of ‘meh! i know this already idiot’ for middle aged people and they too will have a story or an experience to back it up.
Also, by that age, people actually stop giving a fuck. (if you haven’t already noticed, duh!)
This book is also not for people who are aware about the Buddhist texts or have read some Buddha inspired books like Siddhartha by Herman Hesse as they will find nothing extraordinary for them.
The base of the book is Buddhist philosophy presented by a white boy. Lets say its just a ‘Vada’ (South Indian dish) that Mark coated with swear word sprinkles and called it a Donut.
This book can teach you a lot. Even though its something you learn in school but having a reminder of those things in the language we understand is refreshing. Lets say i have no regrets of this purchase.
Have you read the book? How did you like it? Lets talk in the comments.